I was listening to a podcast the other day, specifically the ‘Hey, it’s ok’ podcast by Glamour UK. Glamour’s Editor, Jo Elvin said something that really resonated with me: “One of the hardest things for humans to learn is how to live in the moment”.
I am a planner, I have always been. I like to plan things, I like to have something to look forward to, something to work towards, something to save for.
My boyfriend, on the other hand, isn’t. He takes each day as it comes, lives in the moment and doesn’t know what he’ll be doing tomorrow let alone two months from now.
In a long distance relationship, you can understand how frustrating this can be at times and while we have had to compromise on some things, him being able to live in the moment is one of the myriad of reasons I admire him.
This is something I have become more mindful of in recent months. Instead of wondering and worrying about the future, I have put aside time each day to appreciate what I’m doing, where I am in life and who I’ve surrounded myself with.
An article on Psychology Today talked about a concept called ‘savouring’. “This could be while you’re eating a pastry, taking a shower, or basking in the sun. You could be savoring a success or savoring music,” Sonja Lyubomirsky, a psychologist at the University of California explained.
This can relate back to anything, for example if you are on holiday and all you can think is, “I hope I come back here one day”, take a step back and realise you are here now. Take it in, the sights, the smells, the people. Relish it. Savour it.
Something I’ve learnt from observation is that people who live in the moment tend to be more fulfilled. They cherish everything, they tackle one issue at a time and conquer it instead of worrying about issues that may arise in the future.
Incorporating this notion into your life can be hard if you’re a chronic planner, but starting small but savouring one moment a day. This can make all the difference.
Are you a planner? Or do you live in the moment? Let me know in the comments below.